In life, we often grow up with certain beliefs and perceptions that shape our understanding of emotions. For many of us, crying was seen as a sign of weakness. We were taught to hold back our tears, to hide our vulnerability, and to suppress our emotions.
Maybe you, like me, grew up surrounded by strong-willed individuals who rarely showed their feelings. These role models seemed invincible, and we admired their ability to remain composed in the face of adversity. We even passed on this belief to others, encouraging them to toughen up and not let their tears flow.
But as we journey through life, we begin to realize that our understanding of emotions was incomplete. We start to question whether vulnerability is truly a weakness or if there's more to the story. And then, our own experiences force us to reconsider everything we thought we knew. I became more effective as a counseling therapist to allowing clients to cry their heart out. As a result their breakthrough becomes easier.
I remember the first time I cried, it was when I caused heartache to someone I deeply cared for. In that moment, my tears flowed uncontrollably, and I realized that crying wasn't a sign of weakness but rather an expression of the pain I had caused.
As time went by, I faced more challenges that brought tears to my eyes. The loss of loved ones, the passing of people I held dear—these moments left me overwhelmed with emotions. I realized that crying wasn't just a single experience but a range of expressions. It could be sobbing, weeping, wailing, whimpering, bawling, or blubbering. Each form of crying held its own significance.
Contrary to my previous beliefs, I began to uncover the benefits of shedding tears. Scientific research has shown that crying releases oxytocin and endorphins, chemicals that not only soothe us but also alleviate physical and emotional pain. Crying became a means to reduce suffering and foster a sense of well-being.
In the years 2023 and early 2024, I faced an overwhelming amount of loss—students, friends, soulmates, and relatives. No matter how much I tried to suppress my emotions, I couldn't hold back the tears. The weight of grief and sorrow simply became too much to bear.
Today, I have come to embrace the power of crying. I no longer see it as a weakness but as a healing balm for the soul. Just as confiding in a therapist allows us to release pent-up emotions, shedding tears provides relief, letting go of anger, bitterness, and sadness.
Moreover, crying isn't just a reaction to pain; it can also be a response to joy. We cry tears of happiness when we feel loved, supported, and accomplished. These tears serve as a reminder of the depth of our emotions and the profound impact that life can have on us.
So, to all of you who may have once viewed crying as a weakness, I invite you to reconsider. Allow yourself to embrace your emotions, including the urge to cry. Release the tears that well up inside you and give yourself permission to heal. Remember that crying is not a sign of weakness; it is a testament to your strength, your capacity to feel deeply, and your journey towards well-being.
When the time comes and you feel the need to cry, do not hold back. Welcome it, embrace it, and let your tears flow. For in doing so, you allow yourself to experience the healing and renewal that comes with the shedding of tears. You will emerge stronger, more compassionate, and more resilient than ever before. - Rodney
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